Sunday, 22 June 2014

Leaving Negativity Behind


you can't always choose what happens to you but you can always choose how you feel about it // danielle laporte // NEW MOON #16

About two weeks ago I made the decision to not have a bad day again, I'm not saying I am going to stop bad things from happening to me but I'm going to stop them ruining my day. A bad thing happening doesn't make a day a bad day, just like a bad day doesn't mean a bad life. I used to be the type of girl that thought that how her breakfast went would dictate how the rest of the day went, say if I accidentally put out of date milk on my cereal my day would be a total right off, now that is just silly. There is no use ruining an entire day over off milk.

This decision to change came after a Changemakers coaching session which went in a totally different direction to what I intended but was also probably more useful than what I had planned. We talked at length about how I distinguish between a good day and a bad day and it appears that I thought if one thing went wrong it meant that my whole day was going to go wrong. I'd never really noticed I did this until we were talking about it. It was getting to a ridiculous point where on the day I got a new job I still deemed it to be a bad day because something bad happened both before and after finding out about my new job. Both of the things that went wrong were entirely out of my control yet for some reason I let them control how I felt. After this I decided I was going to graph my days into how I felt on a scale of one to ten and why, so if there was a thing that happened to make things good or bad. If it was a bad thing I could then think about whether or not it was in my control and if it wasn't I would 'bin' the thought.

It is quite tiring having twice as many thoughts, as in asking myself what I think of my thoughts but it seems to be paying off. I feel like I have come to terms with the fact that I shouldn't let other people's actions affect me, I can't feel bad for every bad thing someone else does. That is just silly.

Take control of the negative thoughts, don't let the negative thoughts take control of you.

Hannah x


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